Stepping Outside The Comfort Zone

One of the hardest things many guys find with meeting women is the initial approach. Some guys are just naturals at it. Other guys are just so drunk at the time they don’t care about rejection. But the majority of men don’t find breaking the ice all that easy. Thoughts of rejection pop into their heads. What will I say? How will she react?

Approaching women, just like with approaching anyone in everyday life, takes a degree of confidence and practice.

It’s kind of like having a sales job, especially if you are just hoping to pick up women casually and not for anything long term. Just like with sales, in this situation you aren’t that personally involved simply because you have the mindset that it doesn’t really matter if you get rejected or not. You will simply just move on to the next candidate.

Good salesmen, ones that have the ability to divorce their feelings from the sale and can easily deflect rejection without it upsetting their confidence and rhythm, know that for every rejection they get, they are one step closer to closing a deal. It’s the law of averages. A numbers games. Sales is simply a numbers game, and so is hitting on women.

In order to be more successful with picking up women and to make the initial approach easier and smooth, you need to practice stepping outside your comfort zone until it becomes second nature.

Before seriously practicing on the women you want to meet, just step out a little and start to practice on people you meet in everyday life. Men and women. Every time you venture into a store, try striking up a brief conversation with the person behind the counter. It doesn’t matter what the conversation is about. Just ask a few general questions and engage them in small talk. This is great practice without any pressure on yourself whatsoever.

Even if you already have a job, consider taking on a part-time sales job or telemarketing job after hours. Just for a month or so. Sales jobs are great for teaching you how to break the ice with people as well as developing the skill to approach total strangers without hesitation and doubt. And it gives you that all important ability to be able to take rejection in your stride and move quickly onto the next target with no dent to your confidence.

The bottom line is: It’s all about being so practiced at it that you are supremely confident no matter what.